On my way home from an errend the other day I was listening to the radio and heard a song that caught my attention. While a "secular" song (not from a Christain group) the idea behind it was similar to a concept that our pastor tought us during marriage counseling. Here is a sampling of the lyrics:
She's starin' at me,
I'm sittin', wonderin' what she's thinkin'.
Nobody's talkin',
'Cause talkin' just turns into screamin'.
And now is I'm yellin' over her,
She's yellin' over me.
All that that means
Is neither of us is listening,
(And what's even worse).
That we don't even remember why were fighting.
So both of us are mad for...
Nothin'
(Fighting for).
Nothin'
(Crying for).
Nothin'
(Whoahhh).
But we won't let it go for
Nothin'
(No not for)
Nothin'.
This should be nothin' to a love like what we got
I know sometimes
It's gonna rain...
But baby, can we make up now
'Cause I can't sleep through the pain
(Cant sleep through the pain).
[Chorus]
Girl, I don't wanna go to bed
(Mad at you),
And I don't want you to go to bed
(Mad at me).
No, I don't wanna go to bed
(Mad at you),
And I don't want you to go to bed
(Mad at me)
[Verse 2]
And it gets me upset, girl
When you're constantly accusing.
(Askin' questions like you've already known).
We're fighting this war, baby
When both of us are losing.
(This ain't the way that love is supposed to go).
Whoaaaaaaaaa...
[What happened to workin' it out].
We've falled into this place
Where you ain't backin' down
And I ain't backin' down.
So what the hell do we do now...
It's all for...
The similarity behind this and our counseling was the idea that when fights turn into yelling matches that both of you are losing. Nobody "wins" in this situation and it is best not to let the matter rest for long (don't go to bed mad).
Lyrics (c) Ne-Yo 2008